Ever been in a situation where you thought for hours, maybe days, on how will it unfold an important meeting to get your new job or even meet a new person? You had planned in your head every possible scenario and answers of any kind on how to get out of an uncomfortable situation. You may even have had in the very first place a stubborn thought, on not going at all to that meeting, just for the sake of not knowing how to react if a tiny, uncomfortable situation arose. Well, let me tell you, my dear friend, overthinking is the art of creating problems that weren’t even there before.
Living in an era of consumerism and highly productivity, has caused us, many times to forget to take a break from it and enjoy the little moments with our friends or family. Constantly we are on the move and permanently we think not to say anything irrelevant or awkward when somebody strikes a conversation with us. What we don’t understand is that, we, humans aren’t robots that can always and at any given time produce something. We are a complex human being, with a heart that can feel emotions, positive and negative ones. We have limits. Limit of getting things done, limit of acting towards a situation/issue or limit of thinking. If we overpass our limits, usually it happens to start hurting people around us, and mostly the ones that care the most.
Overthinking derives from two main reasons that have a strong boundary together:
1. Think a lot about the Past.
2. Think a lot about the Future
Analyzing our past is not a bad habit, yet concentrating on each detail and thinking more than necessary without finding a solution, can cause the real problem. Thinking about the past interferes with our future as well. Some wrong steps taken before, can cause us a fear of attempting trying again. Sometimes, we would even ignore a pleasant situation, in order to feel protected from potential risk factors, like getting hurt again or being blamed as the one who makes constantly mistakes.
Overthinking comes in different forms to different people. Some don’t show it, but try to find hidden meanings in things people say or do, others try to recall a conversation you had before and wish you haven’t responded the way you did. And the other group of over-thinkers are the ones, that want to get anything in control, because in this way they will feel safer and be able to obtain their goal, whether professional or romantic it is.
So, if you find yourself in a such situation, then don’t stress out. There is an effective tip that might help you cope with it.
1# Distract yourself
Many times we think, that if we want to distract ourselves we should watch a movie, listen to music which match our feelings or scroll down social media. In fact, this kind of distraction makes us think even more and raises our anger too. Our brain, is a complex organ, so If you find yourself in a such situation, then I would advise you to stop overthinking every little step of your life. I’ve learned through my years, that one of the best moments in our growth are the ones, that come spontaneously, without thinking of the million-dollar question ‘What would happen if…?’. The problem with us, is that we too much complicate a situation, instead of pushing the easy-going button. We would find hundreds of reasons, why something it won’t work, instead of giving it a single try. Trust me, it’s better to let go of your suppositions and start having a little fun. It is said, life isn’t always to be taken serious.
However, overthinking doesn’t always stop with natural methods, sometimes we must take into consideration what doctors have to say, if the situation is aggravated.
Don’t fall in the trap of Overthinking, because it won’t solve a single thing. Better start thinking ways on how to solve your problems!